EVENTS AND ISSUES
New Delhi, 5 June 2006
Bhai-Bhai Syndrome
HUMAN FACE OF
INDO-PAK TIES
By Dr. Syed Ali
Mujtaba
India and Pakistan have formed many peaks and
valleys in its love and hate relationship in a span of about six decades. At times, frenzied emotions have been whipped
up to such a level that political parties in India
have made open pronouncements to wipe out Pakistan from the face of the
earth. However, when the political
temperature cooled, the same parties talked about an ever-lasting friendship
with Pakistan.
At the moment, there is much talk about the evolving
India-Pakistan relationship that is moving from eyeball-to-eyeball
confrontation in 2002 to the bhai-bhai syndrome. However, little is being written or said
about the human face of this relationship that is also emerging in its wake due
to people-to-people contact between the two countries.
Recently, two powerful narratives have come to limelight due
to the new thaw in the India-Pak relationship that could melt any one’s
heart. The fact that these human
relation stories are surfacing even 60 years after creation of Pakistan following India’s partition in 1947 suggests
that there exists a human bond that is much deeper than the geographical boundaries
that divide the two nations.
Two Sikh brothers Joginder Singh and Kesar Singh who fled to
India during the turbulent days of partition were re-united with their Muslim
sister Rabia living on the other side of the divide. They had to wait for six long decades for
this to happen.
Their story goes something like this: Joginder, 76 and
Kesar, 72, left behind two sisters in Pakistan in the wake of the
partition. They adopted Islam and became Rabia and Razia and settled down in
Mirpur town on the Pakistan
side of Kashmir. Despite raising their own families, the
desire to meet their siblings remained alive on both sides of the border. The brothers had first received the
information about their sisters, way back in 1953, but due to tensions between India and Pakistan they could never establish
contact with them.
However, when a Muslim resident of the Mirpur area recently
visited India
to see his Hindu mother, the desire among the Sikh brothers to meet their sisters
once again grew. They made fresh attempts
to locate their sisters through this Muslim visitor and came to know that Razia
had died a few years ago but Rabia was alive.
The brothers finally decided to cross
the border and fulfil the long-cherished desire to see their sister before they
breathe their last. It was an emotional
moment for the divided families to reunite.
Thanks to the peace process
that such a reunion could materialize.
The brother and sister story is not an isolated event. There is yet another case which is more
gripping than this. It is a story of a
77-year-old Indian woman who has two homelands, two husbands and two religions
and who finally got united with her family after decades of separation, thanks
again to the India-Pakistan peace process.
Harbans Kaur and husband Banna Singh belong to a Kashmiri
Sikh family living in the village of Pataika, 16 km north-east of Muzaffarabad
in occupied-Kashmir. After partition,
Banna went to India
alone to find work and a place to live before he could call his wife over. He left behind his wife with her father.
But around this time, both countries stopped issuing visas and Banna could not come back and
Harbans could not join him in India. Soon after, her father died and Harbans was
left all alone. The lady assuming that she would never be able to see her
husband again, married a Muslim called Hadayatullah and adopted Islam. They had
two children – son Manzoor and daughter, Zeenat.
In 1953, Pakistan
and India
signed an agreement for the return of relatives left behind in each other’s
country. Banna filed a claim for his
wife, and Harbans was forced to leave for India to be with her husband
without her two children.
The poor ties between the two countries prevented Harbans
from visiting her children in Pakistan. Her son and daughter grew up with their
father and she did not hear anything about them. Meanwhile, Harbans who is converted to
Sikhism gave birth to another son and daughter, Dalbeer and Manmohan.
For many years, the members of the divided family did not
know each other’s whereabouts or even if they were alive. The Pakistani children did not forget their
mother. In 2000, when a Sikh from Mumbai
visited, Muzaffarabad to meet his Muslim sister, Zeenat, now 53, and her
brother Manzoor, 48, sought his help in locating their mother. To their surprise the gentleman found their
mother living in Ahmedabad and provided her telephone number. They spoke to her on phone, wrote letters and
exchanged pictures and became desperate to meet each other.
The daughter invited her mother to Muzaffarabad where she
was born and brought up. But India
and Pakistan were then on
the brink of a war following a terrorist attack on Indian Parliament in 2001,
and it was impossible for Harbans to
visit Pakistan. The mother and children remained separated
for another 30 months until the resumed Lahore-Delhi bus service in 2003 could
finally unite them.
After more than 40 years, Harbans crossed
back into Pakistan,
accompanied by her Sikh son, Dalbeer Singh, and her daughter-in-law. She was greeted at the Wagah border crossing by her Muslim children Zeenat and Manzoor,
along with grandchildren and other family members. Later her Sikh daughter Manmohan also joined
them along with her husband and their daughter. But one person with whom she could
not reunite was her Muslim husband who died some years after she left for India. Her Sikh husband was also dead.
These are the happy sides of the emerging peace process developing between India
and Pakistan,
thanks to the renewed people-to-people contact between the two countries. However, there are many families not so
fortunate enough to see such reunion.
The hostile India-Pakistan relations had kept them away from seeing each
other’s relatives and in the process
many have passed away. Some could
know the welfare of their relatives living across
the border only through a common relative living in a third country, but were
unable to attend the wedding or funeral at their homes.
However, things are changing for the better now. The second generation of the divided families
now wants the borders to be softened enough so that they could freely crisscross
to meet their loved ones. They want India and Pakistan to de-link their political
differences from people-to-people contact.
The people in both the countries desire to have a peaceful and neighbourly
relationship with each other. The
general perception is the bridges of peace and friendship between the people
would help the Governments of both the countries to iron out their political
differences in a more amicable manner.
The new thaw in India-Pakistan relationship has been a boon
for the divided families of the two countries. There is no count as to how many
of them live on the other side of the border. The migration from India to Pakistan has taken place from all
over the country. The majority of the
separated families however live in the Indo-Gangetic plains where there is the
largest concentration of Muslim population in India. There would hardly be a family living in this
region that may not have a relative in Pakistan. They hope and pray that the juggernaut of
peace and friendship between India and Pakistan keeps moving on till a lasting
peace is established in the sub-Continent.---INFA
(Copyright, India News and Feature
Alliance)
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