People & Their Problems
New Delhi, 5 January 2015
New Year
2015
DO WE
NEED RESOLUTIONS?
By Mithun
Dey
Come
New Year’s and the mind starts ticking about making fresh resolutions. In fact,
many people would have made such resolutions throughout their lives. Yet,
practically nearly every resolution may end up being broken in a short period
or only a few accomplished. Why is there this breakdown in achieving
resolutions so common?
It
all starts in late December, when a list of goals they had tried to achieve
last year but didn’t accomplish is made:
quit smoking, chewing betel-nut, drink less alcohol et al. On day one of
the New Year, 1 January, many would be sure they would be successful in
fulfilling their list of New Year’s resolutions this time. But by the middle of
February, they find themselves drinking heavily, smoking a pack of cigarettes a
day, and even taking more betel-nut than before. They learned that human
“steam,” or willpower, were not adequate to drive their mind and body to comply
with their desire to change.
Regardless
of how positive they had been about accomplishing their goals, they had
again failed to achieve their resolutions for the year and were back in
the same destructive behavior that they were so accustomed to. Why this
recurring certainty for most people today? Why the enveloping lack of control
in conquering problems such as alcoholism, smoking, consuming an unhealthy
diet, lethargicness, gambling, lying, etc.? Furthermore, why the sudden urge
for people to try to make changes in their lives at this one point of the year?
One
of the most familiar resolutions in ancient Babylon was to return all borrowed farming
equipment. Moreover, depending on the cultures and traditions, various gods
were worshipped on that day and asked to bless the upcoming year. From these
early customs, the tradition of New Year’s resolutions was passed down through
generations, becoming the tradition that so many participate in today.
Ironically,
some set out to overcome a problem in a day or two, though they have expended a
vast amount of time establishing the bad habit. These goals are broken shortly
after being made since it is not very easy to change one’s negative attributes
and because there is a missing element in the person’s life. Why is it so hard
for people to change their habits and achieve success in their resolutions?
Because old habits die hard!
At
some point in life, each one of us may have had to address a bad habit. Most
understand how hard it can be to conquer such destructive habits. Habitually,
the individual will not even recognize the habit until someone brings it to his
attention and removing these subtleties from one’s daily schedule is a
struggle.
Correspondingly,
New Year’s resolutions are desires to instantly conquer certain
habits that have possibly taken years to establish. This is very
difficult to achieve. Truly, overcoming is a lifelong struggle and since change
is intolerable and sometimes even painful, most people avoid it. For those who
do try to change, an inadvertent slip-up is sometimes viewed as total failure,
instead of an opportunity to learn, cultivate and to strive harder to succeed.
This mindset, instinctively, is a pretext for the person to return to
familiarity—his bad habit.
Why
do people make “changes” at just one time of the year? Why do they return to
their old habits, deciding to try again next year? Why do people go after each
other’s lead in failure—not questioning their true intent and beliefs or the
traditions they follow? The answer to these questions is the same: because it
is an easy alternative!
Hence,
this year 2015, it would have been best not to make any resolutions and instead
do something different. The past New Years have been left behind. Today, all
around us we have murderers, rapists, robbers, child molesters, terrorists etc.
Corruption is a major problem and one of the key deterrents of
development. This apart, religion is becoming a contentious issue. What
all then should the people resolve about?
Do
we really need ‘New Year’s resolutions’? In a year, there are 52 weeks, 12
months or 365 days. John Ruskin who was the leading English art critic of the
Victorian era, a prominent and social thinker once quoted, “Let every dawn
of morning be to you as the beginning of life, and every setting sun be to you
as its close.” Every moment is a gift and each new sight
is a wonder. Each new day is a blank page in the diary of one’s life.
Instead of making resolutions every New Year, do it every
day. New Year is nothing but just a change of the calendar year.
Let’s
change how we speak about people. Let’s change our society. We should make our
nation great. We have to do something completely different to change the
system. We need to work hard with focus and dedication in our every day journey
of struggles. We don’t need to change the calendar. In a New Year, we must have
new ears through which one can listen to a soft and lovely messages and a new
mouth through which he or she can spread a beautiful note for the nation.
Swami Vivekananda once quoted, “In a day, when you don't come across any
problems - you can be sure that you are travelling in a wrong path”.
No
need to make promise for the New Year. The habit of making strategies, of
carping, endorsing and moulding your life, are too much for a day or so. The
New Year is like a blank paper and we must put words on the pages. And the
first episode is ‘New Year’. Each day and in every moment, we all could change
ourselves for a better nation. Very few people who make daily resolutions adhere
to these, but that is hardly the point. In our life, we must learn to rely on
ourselves and the connections we have within ourselves to keep our everyday
resolutions alive.
What
a fascinating, modern age we are in! But, what’s left for us to do? Now,
we are looking for a radically new world which will take a shape from the ashes
of yesterday’s nation based economic world. We need to look at the entire
economic and civic model and find a way to change it. Let’s act all together
for our nation. Let’s start the year 2015 with being perfectly honest. Let's
not make ourselves better alone, but the world too. ---INFA
(Copyright, India News and Feature Alliance)
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